'Independence is for the very few; it is a privilege of the strong.
And whoever attempts it even with the best right but without inner constraint proves that he is probably not only strong, but also daring to the point of recklessness.
He enters into a labyrinth, he multiplies a thousand fold the dangers which life brings with it in any case, not the least of which is that no one can see how and where he loses his way,
becomes lonely, and is torn piecemeal by some minotaur of conscience.
Supposing one like that comes to grief, this happens so far from the comprehension of men
that they neither feel it nor sympathise.
And he cannot go back any longer.
Nor can he go back to the pity of men.'
~ Friedrich Nietzsche
I do not pretend for one second to be an expert in psychology or understand fully the genius of Friedrich Nietzsche. But I do understand the strength and discipline required to build a company and in taking calculated risks. Unfortunately I also know the loneliness when the walls crumble around you and you are left high and dry by the endeavours of the unscrupulous!
Nietzsche may not of had the entrepreneur spirit in mind when he composed the masterful piece above, but when I first read them they struck a chord so deep within me that I knew others would surely relate to them too; especially those that have already trodden the narrow path and once more find themselves carving a new path in life.
Entrepreneurship is not for the faint hearted, you have to take certain levels of risk; there’s no route to success by playing it too safe. After all, if you find a path with no obstacles it probably doesn’t lead anywhere.
Yet once we take a few calculated risks and then a few more, we gain momentum, it's a great feeling and life is fine. When a little success and money finally arrives it bolsters our egos beyond recognition; suddenly we believe our IQ’s exceed those of others and that with a little more daring we will ride any storm. After all we did it before we’ll do it again. For me, little did I know back then, controlling every outside force; be it banks, recessions, competitors, suppliers or even the minds of our employees, is beyond us all. We can't control everything or everybody.
Problems come when assumptions and recklessness undermines the whole structure of your business. And when the time comes that you believe your assumptions are the truths and your recklessness calculated, it may be too late to turn back.
I hope the time has not yet arrived for you, where your ego determines your attitude, because my following five observations really could help you avoid falling into your own labyrinth of recklessness.
1. Study others failures.
A successful man is always asked, ‘What is the secret of your success?’ People never ask a man who is a failure, ‘What is the secret of your failure?’ It’s quite easy to see they are not interested. Yet to study the failures of others is as important, if not more so, than studying others successes.
2. Choose your influencers wisely.
Create your own support group. You simply cannot do everything yourself, you will just run yourself ragged and burnout. And once your mind starts to burn out you take advice from others who have neither the experience of such matters or try to manipulate your fragile ego into believing they have your best intentions to hand.
You need people who knew you before you were successful. You also need mentors who have trodden the path before and whose success to date outshines yours, you need people who will tell you that you're being an idiot, and most importantly you need YOU to put your ego to one side, step outside of yourself and dissociate yourself with everything around you. This is far easier to write down than to do. As it takes years of meditation and self-reflection to achieve, so you had better start today!
Nothing remains static, everything must change. You are either on an upward spiral or a downward spiral. And the same holds true of your influencers. Make it your duty to read signals in their own lives, of course this is easier with spouses and very close friends, but when it comes to your managers and fellow directors it is less so; and can cause even greater disruption than you can imagine. Keep in mind mood swings, employees irritability, drinking habits, sexual habits and their marriage. It pays to be nosey, but try to be subtle Sherlock!
It is an ongoing pursuit to ensure your support group is worthy of you; whilst dissociating your ego! Yet from personal experience I know this is both a priority and your duty not to make assumptions about the lives of those whose influence carries your business in the balance. The downward spiral of others is like a vortex that has the ability to violently pull your dreams, life and business into, leaving you to ponder; #WTF happened then!!!
3. Cross the bridges and let them burn.
How poetic! It has always been said that by giving yourself no escape route then you must survive. Surviving is not the issue, surviving whilst paying the mortgage is.
You need a contingency plan for a contingency plan. Let the bridge burn and master the theatrics to inspire the minds of your followers, but down the river have several rafts built, hidden and protected.
Whilst retreating from Russia in the winter of 1812, Napoleon ordered all of the pontoon bridge materials to be destroyed; used for firewood and lighten the loads through the heavy snow. The younger Napoleon of Austerlitz would never have dreamed of such a thing. Dramatically the Grande Army were forced to change directions of their retreat; through the constant pressure and vigilance of fresh Russian troops. Now Napoleon faced crossing the Berezina or annihilation of the remnants of the greatest army ever to be formed.
Luckily for Napoleon, a wily old engineer did not carry out the instructions of the Emperor and saved enough equipment to create two ‘rickety’ bridges over the freezing waters. The battle of Berezina was fought and the Grande Army forced their way back to Poland with heroic fortitude.
Your to do list as an entrepreneur is never ending, but hand this over to your sub-conscious mind and a never ending list of contingencies will emerge; no idea is ridiculous, just keep notes and be creative with the suggestions your subconscious sends to you.
4. When is enough enough?
I detest the word hindsight. People will say if I had the hindsight for this or for that my life would be so different. Your ‘hindsight’ consists of educating your mind to listen to ‘everything’, as simple as that. Hindsight = Regrets, and life’s too short for regrets.
As you make your way through life you must determine future cut off points; all of which reassess what is working or not working or even envelopes a complete exit strategy. Entrepreneurship is a lifestyle choice, that operates 24/7, enough is enough incorporates every single detail in your life, be it relationships, exercise routine, pastimes or cash flow, you are your brand.
Power is such a potent mixture that you can easily fall into the belief your importance and being is critical to the lives of others. Breaking news… The world does not revolve around you, you are not a gravy train! To lift others higher and help them create a true purpose for themselves is honourable, but to believe the power of your own myth in that you are indispensable is a crock of crap. Life goes on with or without you; sure it’s tough for loved ones, but as for employees or work partners, they will adapt and overcome. Pre-set a cut off point today; be it 100k in the bank, your house paid for or settle for a cool million. Just do it and stay disciplined and true to you.
5. Paralysis by over analysis.
Over thinking to the point of not acting is just as dangerous as not thinking in the first place.
My personal philosophy is dedicated to ‘leadership within’, no one knows you better than you do, no one knows the conversations you have with yourself; unless you talk out loud and you should really stop doing that! We can’t rush discipline and our futures, as Warren Buffet says, ‘You can’t make a baby in a month by getting nine women pregnant, some things just take time.’ But the most important thing is to get in the game, discipline yourself and then date nine women at once. (Just seeing if you were paying attention still).
Remember the old school dances when you and your friends would line up against the wall and eye up the talent lining up on the other side of the hall; who were pretending not to be watching you. You would be fretting and over analysing your own weaknesses and not playing to your strengths. Before you knew it the night was over, the lights come on and you didn’t get the dance and kiss you dreamed of the night before. You edge your way out of the door as fast as you can, whilst avoiding all eye contact with the other sex.
Well now you’re older and a little wiser, yet the lessons still remain the same… YOU MUST DANCE!
You must get into the action to get the action. And on the days you are rejected and not successful you must practice some more and get on another dance floor.
You can never go back to those still standing with their backs against the wall. They’ll have no sympathy or pity for something they have no courage for. It only highlights their own weaknesses. They will never feel the music like you, you have the soul of an entrepreneur and only people like you will truly understand you.
Keep an open mind, stay alert, don’t become complacent after a little victory and stay in the thick of the action, whilst dancing your little socks off, of course :)
By Mark Weeks – Creator of Azuni World and URConqueror
The importance of knowing your purpose in life, and how it translates to tangible benefits,
“Definiteness of Purpose involving a hundred dollars, for example, might be translated into its financial equivalent in a few days, or even a few hours, or a few minutes, whereas, desire for a million dollars might call for considerably more time, depending to some extent on what one has to give in return for the million dollars… The best way I can think of to describe the time necessary for the translation of a definite purpose into its physical or financial equivalent, can be accurately stated by determining the exact time necessary to deliver the service, or the equivalent in value one intends to give in return for the object of that purpose.”
Wealth is a process of providing valuable service to others,
“Riches and material things that men get are the effect of some form of useful services they rendered. My fortune did not come to me until I had delivered to others definite values in the form of large quantities of well-made steel.”
Money has no use when in possession, money needs to be used constructively,
“…men seldom profit by money except that which they earn… The good there is in money consists of the use to which it is put, and not in the mere possession of it. Generally speaking, the man who earns his own money, acquires, along with it, some of the necessary wisdom as to its constructive use.”
Embrace responsibilities and work,
“Of the thousands of men who work for me, I hazard the guess that not more than a score of them would be willing to assume my responsibilities and work the hours I work, if I gave them all the money I possess for doing so. A few of the men who work for me have been willing to assume such responsibilities, and it is significant that every one of these is as rich as he desires to be.”
Teach wealth principles and not merely give away money. Teach a man to fish and not just give him the fish.
“… the very best method of distributing wealth is that of distributing the principles of achievement by which wealth is procured.”
The importance to leverage on other people’s expertise and experience,
“I have surrounded myself with more than a score of men whose combined education, experience, and ability, give me the full benefit of all that is known, up to the present time, about the making and marketing of steel. My job is to keep these men inspired with a desire to do the finest possible job.”
Definition of power and knowledge,
“… success is the power to get whatever one desires in life, without violating the rights of others… Knowledge is not power but the appropriation and use of other men’s knowledge and experience, for the attainment of some definite purpose, is power; moreover, it is power of the most beneficial order.”
In forming a Master Mind group…
“…seldom does anyone has the ability, to induce others to serve as members of a Master Mind group, without giving something in return for the service received. The motive may be financial reward, or it may consist of some form of return favors, but it must be something which is of equal value to or greater than the service expected.”
A leader is a servant,
“Every leader’s motto should be “The Greatest Among You Shall Be the Servant of All!”
Understanding your motive and others’ motive,
“… no one ever does anything without a motive. Men lend their experience, their knowledge, and their aid to other men because they have been given a sufficient motive for doing so.”
Your thoughts dictate your actions,
“… every man is where he is and what he is because of his won mental attitude as it is expressed through his personality.”
The importance of the ability to deliver an effective speech,
“we can see by examining the history of mankind, the entire trend of civilization has been influenced by men who could dramatize an idea with the spoken word.”
Know your subject well!
“No amount of dramatic technique will ever take the place of the self-assurance a speaker feels when he knows his subject!”
“We have no trouble in giving feeling to speech when we believe what we are saying!”
Don’t be afraid of failing,
“Examine the records of the truly great leaders in all walks of life and you will discover that their success is in exact proportion to their mastery of failures.”
Difference between an obsessional motive and a wish,
“… one’s motive must be obsessional. That is, it must be so strong that it impels a man to subordinate all his thoughts and efforts to its attainment. Too often people become confused between motive and a mere wish. Wishing will not bring success. If it did everyone would be successful, because all people have wishes.”
Move on to nobler motive,
“In the beginning I was motivated by a desire for self-expression and the desire for financial influence with which to make that expression widespread in its influence. But, in carrying out my original motive I happily hit upon a bigger and nobler motive – the motive of making men instead of making money.”
“I caught the vision of that greater motive as the result of my having discovered, in the process of making money, the great need for better men. If civilization is to evolve to still higher standards of living, or hold even the gains it has made, men must be taught higher standards of human relationship than those which now prevail.”
Direct your emotions and not try to eliminate them,
“The emotions of man are something like a river in that their power can be dammed up and released in whatever proportions and whatever directions one desires, but they cannot be eliminated. Through self-discipline a man can organize all his emotions and release them, in a highly concentrated form, as a means of attaining the object of his plans and purpose.”
Do what you love,
“A man will always be more effective when engaged in sort of work he likes best. That is why one’s major purpose in life should be of his own choice. People who drift through life, performing work they do not like, merely because they must have an income as a means of living, seldom get more than a living from their labor.”
“… I am giving away the money I have accumulated, but this is not the solution of any part of the problem you mention. What the people need is not a gift of money, but a gift of knowledge with which they may become self-determining, including not only the accumulation of money, but the more important matter of learning how to find happiness in their relationships with others.”
Derive happiness from providing a service,
“I have never heard of anyone finding enduring happiness except by some form of personal action of benefit to others. You see, the business of accumulating riches, if it is carried on in the right spirit, not only provides a man with the necessities and the luxuries his nature requires, but he also finds happiness in his activities.”
Riches is not just materials,
“… real riches consist not in material things, but in the use one gives to material wealth. But, mind you, I am not giving it away to individuals, but I am placing it where it may inspire individuals to help themselves.”
You determine your promotion,
“An employer has but little to do with the promotion of such a person. If one employer neglects to recognize his ability, he finds another who will, but he manages to keep growing and advancing in any direction he chooses.”
People influence the environment, and environment shapes the others,
“The psychologist with a keen sense of perception can walk into any home, get the “mental feel” of the place, and tell precisely whether the home is dominated by the spirit if bickering and friction. The mental attitude of people leaves its permanent influence on the very atmosphere of their environment.”
Find what you love to do,
“A man will succeed best in that which he likes best, all else being equal. It is advisable for one to change provided he does not get into the habit of changing every time the work he has chosen becomes difficult, or he meets with temporary defeat… The successful person must reach the stage of specialization, sooner or later; the sooner the better.”
For most people who are clueless in what they want to do in life, it is more worthwhile to work for others, and allow the management to direct them. They will also become better people because they are pushed to work and forced out of their comfort zone.
“Men require discipline, guidance and supervision, in order to make their efforts of the greatest value to themselves and to others. If you doubt this, observe what happens when the management of any business becomes inefficient, selfish or dishonest.”
Posted by Martyn Green
'If the heartbeat of every man lies in the Colosseum's bloodied sands.
Then why do so many remain forever in the stands.'
~ Mark Weeks
If you make only one change in your life this year, let it be to live boldly.
You control this moment. You control your mind.
Why spend precious time cautiously testing the water when you could dive
straight into the moment with freeing abandon.
Why spend time listening to the naysayers when your heart tells you to follow your dreams.
Imagine the person you want to be and the life you want to live.
Then commit to the vision with your mind, body & spirit leading the charge.
You do not have to be what others want you to be, you are free to follow your passion
and discover the world which has laid dormant
within you for far too long.
Believe in yourself, embrace your beauty and make the change today.
You must become fearless.
Become the conqueror of your own world and never again surrender to your fear.
You weren’t born to be satisfied with merely a seat in the stands.
Your life beckons if you dare.
#URConqueror is the self-development channel of Azuni World and created by Mark Weeks.
Our mission is to encourage, inspire and educate those who dare to dream.
Post by Mark Weeks
Without mastery of your mind you will never have mastery over your life.
That one simple sentence holds the key to your future, because no matter what you wish to achieve in life you must conquer your mind first.
Sounds so simple doesn't it? So why then do so many of us continue to overcomplicate life and lead lives borne out of frustration, anger, fear and dissatisfaction. Seemingly by focusing on every other subject under the sun except their own 'minds' and well-being?
Sure, we all know life can have its tough days, when it will kick you and try to put you down for the mere fun of it. But what of it, we must continue, persevere and grind out another precious day of life. And after a little self-reflection continue on our journey. It's true each and everyone of us has a 'hard luck' book inside of us yearning for attention, but instead of focusing on the emotional torrent of negativity it's high time to unleash your inner conqueror and create a more rewarding existence.
Human mind and human will are capable of overcoming so many obstacles, but it is only through constant vigilance of what you allow to be absorbed into your mind will you be able to advance. And in your quest to release your inner conqueror you must first and foremost face your current reality in the cold light of day, not during a cosy evening with a glass of wine, (the birth of many mistakes I have made!), and only then, when all the facts are laid bare devise a simple strategy for overcoming the adversity and obstacles you face.
Simplify, simplify, simplify... got it?
Whatever apparent weakness you recognise you must set yourself some simple manageable goal, something so basic that it will not even require breaking sweat or stretching your brain too much. Once you can do this task, and only then, raise the bar a notch higher and do the same. Sounds too easy, right? Wrong! If it were that easy everyone would be smashing it in some endeavour every single second of the day. Too many people lose focus and lack the spirit required to push on with their goals. And that's why we are sharing a little time together right now, whilst others are watching the TV or flicking through Facebook!
You are different and you have set yourself on a different path to the majority, of course they may make fun of your dedication and even ridicule your plans, but deep inside their hearts they are envious of your fighting spirit. So don't let their meaningless words deter you, what you are pursuing in life is a noble cause, and few will ever dare to tread or understand the burning desires that fuel you. Do not let anyone tell you any different, simply stay humble and push through another day.
Battle of Life.
The battle of life is within and you are your only competition, not other people. You must constantly
better yourself. You must always strive to improve yourself mentally, physically and intellectually. There is no other more fulfilling and satisfying way to live.
You can have it all if you want it bad enough. You have the power within your mind – a force that will accomplish anything you put your mind to if you just trust it.
Learn to love the challenge of accomplishment and your life will take on new meaning. Every day becomes a new adventure rather than a dull routine, a chance for a new opportunity, an opportunity for change and growth. Seize the moment. Live in the present and just go for it.
Do not merely read these words. Make them a general philosophy of your life, a way of living and success will be yours because you will be harnessing the power of your mind to its fullest potential. Then nothing can stop you.
You are a Conqueror, you always have been.
There is no greater mastery than the mastery of self.'
By Anniina Koski | Submitted On February 01, 2017
Yin Yoga is now a common practice by persons targeting deep tissues including ligaments, tendons and joints. This involves limited movements where a person stays in one position for an extended period of time, usually between 3 and 5 minutes. The poses involved work great for parts of the body with more connective including thighs, pelvis, spine and hips among others. Most of the poses involved are practiced when lying or sitting on the floor, and these are usually held for around three to five minutes. It is, therefore, important to wear comfortable clothing. As a beginner, you should not aim to hold the poses for long, but you should start with what you can handle without overstretching your limits. It will only be a matter of time before you start noticing some improvements.
The major benefits that you will enjoy when practicing Yin Yoga include:
1. Strengthening connective tissues: There are numerous functions associated with the body's connective tissues with some good examples being promoting mobility, maintaining posture and promoting the proper function of blood vessels among others. By practicing Yin Yoga, you will be strengthening these tissues, and they will be performing their functions more efficiently. This will also help to reduce cases of injuries.
2. Improved energy flow: You can rely on Yin yoga to enhance the flow of energy through various body channels and this helps to boost the health functions of different organs. These exercises are also known for boosting the body's immunity and slowing some signs of aging like wrinkles and receding vision among others.
3. Improved flexibility: Most people only come to learn of connective tissues after being involved in injuries like a blown out knee, strained spine and sprained ankles among others. Yin yoga helps to gently stretch the limits of tissues like tendons and joint ligaments, therefore, helping to improve flexibility in such areas. This means that your body will now be prepared for more challenging situations.
4. Reducing stress: Due to our current lifestyle, most of us are stressful which greatly affects our performance, feelings and even thoughts. These leads to health problems like hypertension, heart ailments and diabetes among others. You can reduce stress by practicing Yin Yoga since the deep exercises are known to calm the mind. This prepares the body to handle even more stressful situations.
5. Increased circulation: Poor blood and fluid circulation in the body can contribute to numbness and tingling in various parts like hands and toes among others. Holding some of the poses involved in Yin yoga will greatly help you to improve circulation in vital body organs like the spine and glands. This also promotes better flow of synovial fluids thus improving mobility in joints like knees and pelvis.
You should take the time to find reputable Yin yoga trainers to ensure that all poses involved are safe and that these are practiced the right way. This will help to enhance effectiveness and limit cases of injuries.
One of the most popular Yoga School in India, Abhinam School, focuses on teaching correct alignment for injury free practice. The school organizes teacher training courses, retreats and workshops all year around for students of all levels.The yoga teacher training in Dharamsala focuses on Yin Yoga and other styles which is suited for practitioners of all levels who are looking for the right course to start their teaching journey.
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By Mark Weeks
‘We create stress for ourselves because you feel like you have to do it.
You have to.
I don’t feel like that anymore.’
~ Oprah Winfrey
(Come on, don’t be cynical, her millions of dollars may help, but they weren’t there when she first changed her mind-set.)
So what self-imposed stresses are you dumping on yourself at this moment in time?
And maybe more to the point, why put yourself through being a martyr?
You may not believe it for now, but you really can limit the negative stresses of life if you would only give yourself a flipping break and listen to the person who knows you best, YOU. And what’s more these changes can last.
Okay you might not be in the mood right now to agree, but lets ask a few probing questions and see how you respond inside… ready?
Why are you continuing to do what you’ve always done and expect different results to miraculously appear?
Why are you doing work you no longer enjoy but feel compelled to do it?
Why are you stuck in an unloving relationship that makes you feel like a second class citizen? Why are you putting up with the frosty silence, rejection after rejection and constant put downs? Are you waiting for a sudden glimpse of love to string you along for another week; for now and then it does it appear.
It’s okay, you don’t have to tell me anything, I’m just pleased you’re still reading, after all, the mirror says more than enough every time you dare to make eye contact with yourself.
Unfortunately you feel alone and even more unfortunate you are not ready to change a damn thing with your life. You will continue to tolerate, endure and hope life will improve eventually; that job you want, the pay rise and loving relationship will all turn up if you just endure the stress for a few more months, that’s all it will take… just a few more months!
You know you’re lying to yourself, and that’s fine if it helps, all it means is that you simply haven’t reached rock bottom, yet. You still feel you have to keep up the pretence of being happy, after all everyone else is right? The continuing barrage of ‘happy selfies and happy couples’ pics on social media prove it!
Let me just state the bloody obvious, you really are kidding yourself if you believe denying yourself happiness and enduring a poor quality of life is the key to future happiness. I am living proof that major life changes can work out for the best, though it represents the most painful of experiences you will have to face.
Personally I am a great believer in deferring instant gratification and enduring a little more hardship for a bigger return. But sometimes we simply have to face the truth, and that is, if after years of working at a job, relationship or certain skill you’re still undervalued, unappreciated and incompetent, then it’s time to call it a day!
The sad truth is…
you’ve conformed, you’re suffering from ‘have-to-itis’, there I’ve said it, someone had to tell you!
You feel you have to do this you have to do that and you have to endure years of unhappiness. And so the pattern continues; the stress builds and builds, the debts mount and mount, alcohol feels like a solution and becomes a crutch to lean on, though it eases the pain for another day of conformity. Yet the martyr in you remains justified and resilient.
I started writing this piece to lift your spirits and fill your day with my usual positive vibe, but as I type I seemed to have strayed from my earlier preparation as I feel the nagging pain of those still stuck in a life they feel compelled to live, one where tiptoeing safely to death seems to be the only viable option.
So what is the solution?
I think I hear you mutter under your breath. Well, my diagnosis at this moment in time is… there isn’t one for you. Sorry. But come on did you really I think I can help you find your own truth. Only you know YOU.
Let’s face it, you’ve yet to reach rock bottom and more frustratingly YOU probably enjoy the wanting of a new life far more than having one.
As strange as it may sound you seem to prefer the rush of endorphins – the internal drug cocktail – that is released when you want something, to the set which is released when you achieve something! Which I guess is understandable, as change is bloody scary and your little martyr voice urges you to persist!
Of course there is hope, there always is. But you have to be ready mentally and you have to want it more than anything else in life. And until that moment when you recognise the martyr in you is actually crying out for help, and wants nothing more than to hand over responsibility and ownership of your life back to YOU, things won’t change.
Now maybe you will continue your day as much as you did yesterday and the day before. But lets just say, that maybe together we have scratched a scar that has started itching. And that itch needs a itching, right? Well if that’s the case please reach out to my friend Joe Barnes, author, speaker and life coach, he is far more qualified than me to guide you away from the path of martyrdom and onto freedom. Either dip straight into his book, Escape The System, sign up to his newsletter or join him on FaceBook. Whatever you do please do something today, that’s the key, do it now! You will never know where one little itch can lead
remember always, you are not on this earth to be the torturer of your own mind, you are not here to merely exist, you have as much right as anyone else to be what you want to be.
You are Conqueror of your world. Now listen to your heart.
By Mark Weeks